How I figured out what science already knew and why you should do it too

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At the time of writing this, I haven’t seen my fiancé for 303 days.

Lockdowns and travel restrictions have separated us for 10, painful, months. We’ve had plenty of practice at being apart — 75% of our 5-year relationship has been socially distanced by 3898 miles — but it’s still hard to be refused access to the person you love.

Technology thankfully gives us more options than ever before when it comes to staying in contact — but contact doesn’t equal a relationship. We humans need more than that. …


And the systemic sexism she’s exposing at the heart of our nation

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The latest allegations against Meghan Markle are further proof of sexism within the British press and the Royal Family.

It was reported on March 2nd that the Duke and Duchess of Sussex had been urged to postpone the release of their tell-all interview with Oprah Winfrey, due to air March 7th on CBS. The interview, which promises shocking revelations and intimate details about the couple’s experience in the UK, has been deemed as inappropriate while Prince Philip (the Queen’s husband for those of you who don’t watch The Crown) is hospitalised.

The interview will undoubtedly create a media storm on…


A disturbing report finally reveals the true scale of abuse faced by the country’s most vulnerable women and children

A view of the mass grave at the Bon Secours Mother and Baby Home, Tuam, County Galway. By AugusteBlanqui — Own work, CC BY-SA 4.0

Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” — Matthew 19:14

In 2013, Irish historian Catherine Corless obtained the death certificates for 796 children who had died in the Bon Secours Mother and Baby Home between the years 1925 and 1961. She found only two corresponding burial records.

Her discovery and subsequent research put the tranquil market town of Tuam, County Galway at the centre of an investigation that took five years and spanned 18 institutions that were once designated as Mother and Baby…


Why I no longer care who knows about my love for Little Mix

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Pop music is shallow. Pop is for kids. Pop is for empty-headed bimbos and gays. It’s not real music. Pop artists aren’t talented.

This is the kind of stuff I’ve heard since I proudly announced my possession of Britney’s ‘…Baby One More Time” album to my classmates at 13 years old. By the age of 15 I started to really notice boys, along with their derision for the ‘shit music’ that brought me so much pleasure.

I took up listening to Green Day to try and make myself more appealing to them.

My teenage years taught me that pop music…


How confronting the truth made our relationship stronger

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My boyfriend, lovely and loveable as he is, rarely compliments my physical appearance. I can spend a good three hours turning out a look for a special occasion and it garners a mere nod when I ask if I look okay. This went on for a long time until I eventually felt secure enough to bring it up.

When I explained that his lack of verbal appreciation for my appearance made me feel a bit crappy, he explained how he once showered an ex with compliments — basically wrote poetry dedicated to her looks — and then she broke his…


We’re told not to worry and that it’s probably a coincidence, but my body tells a different story

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I woke up in the middle of last night with excruciating period cramps and spent the next 45 minutes in the foetal position, willing the pain away. I’ve had my share of nasty periods, but my post-vaccine cycles have been some of the worst I’ve experienced.

Now that research is taking place to investigate the link between periods and the Covid-19 vaccinations, I feel validated for being worried about my period. …


Please?

Greenland, February 2020, Corren York.

It’s been 13 months and some weeks since I last saw my fiancé. A man who I’ve been dating since the end of 2015, and who I’ve decided is worth making America my home for. If Joe Biden ever lets me see him again.

The past year has been one of the hardest periods of my life and it’s basically broken me. Right before the pandemic struck, we were on the verge of submitting the appropriate paperwork for my K-1 visa — a fiancé visa. We had a lawyer picked out, we were figuring out how to download the hundreds…


Spice up your sex life the socio-political way

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The Kitchen Sink

Difficulty: 🍆🍆

This is the easiest place to start for a man who wants to show his partner that he’s not afraid to challenge genders norms.

Adorn your tightest jeans (grey sweatpants are an acceptable alternative), place yourself firmly in front of the kitchen sink, and do the dishes. All the dishes. Without waiting for your partner to ask or delegate the task to you. An alpha wolf doesn’t ask.

A word of caution; pacing and stamina are key when it comes to making it through to the climax of this manoeuvre — the Le Creuset dish that’s crusted with…


How I learned to be grateful for the lessons they taught me

Pair of Lovers. 1480–1485, by Master of the Housebook — Public domain, via Wikimedia Commons

As an optimist I like to look for the good in every situation, but it’s a challenge when I look back over my failed relationships. Wasted years, devastating heartbreak, manipulation, toxic and abusive behaviour — it’s hard to find the good in those memories. However, over the past few years I’ve begun to understand that my exes gave me seriously important life lessons that have improved my life and relationships.

The gift of individuality

My first real relationship, one that included love and commitment, began when I was 16 and I met a 23 year old man at my local pub. …

Corren York

Tea addict. Gamer. History nerd. I write about relationships, life, British stuff and current issues.

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